Showing up for someone you love
Helping others with ADHD
Believe them
ADHD struggles are real, even when it looks like they 'should' just be able to do the thing. Trust their experience.
Skip the lectures
Reminders about willpower don't help , they've heard them all. Offer practical scaffolding instead.
Help with the hard part
Sit with them while they start something hard, or help break a task into smaller steps. Presence often matters more than advice.
Be patient with the messy bits
Forgetfulness, lateness, and being overwhelmed aren't signs they don't care. They're symptoms, not character traits.
Ask, don't assume
Check in about what kind of support actually helps , it varies from person to person. What helps one day might not help the next.
Celebrate effort
Notice and celebrate the trying, not just the outcome. Their ADHD is part of them, but it isn't who they are.
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